It seems that articles describing “Why you should date a girl/guy who does this/that,” movement is taking over the world – or maybe just my news feed, but that’s essentially the same thing, right?
Without fail, the dawn of each new week brings with it a bundle of new ideas about the “perfect” girl/guy for you, and whilst I unashamedly devour every morsel of “Why you should date a girl who writes”, I am realizing that I am actually in love with every type of person who is so perfectly described.
But which one is best? Which blatant reduction of humanity into a brief article on EliteDaily.com constitutes the soul-mate, lover, best friend you have been yearning for? Dare I say it, none.
You can’t create a person. Even the Sims, which does let you create a person, does not warrant you complete control over how they will act, what they will become, and how they will respond to the randomness that is life.
A girl who writes fantasy could also be the same girl who digs science, is a surfer and part-time vegan who enjoys a kebab after a boozy night.
Wanting to date that guy who speaks another language doesn’t necessarily imply that he wants to travel the world in a Combi van with you. And just because he admits to enjoy the Notebook, doesn’t mean that he will enjoy reading and also be sensitive.
Because people are people, and like Rainbow Rowell said, “[people] look like art, and art wasn’t supposed to look nice; it was supposed to make you feel something”.
So don’t date the girl or guy who does anything.
Look for the undeniable feeling of feeling something greater than you, all you know, and everything you have experienced up to that point. Search, wait for,and then pounce.
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